How many of you brides have been screwed over?

during wedding planning.. what advice would you give to other brides.





I meet with over 20 jps when i finally found one i liked.he was nice. both my fiance and i felt comfortable with him. i gave him a $200 deposit in cash. with the promise that he wold email me the contract. He never did email me a contract. he took forever answering my emails. and everytime he said he was going to email something he was having problems with his computer.when i tried getting my deposit back he fought me tooth and nail.. finally he agreed to give me half of it back. m advice.. never just hand over money without having a written and SIGNED by both parties in your hand.. also always pay by cash. and if the say they want it in cash tell them sorry you do everything b check. and people are really too good to be true

How many of you brides have been screwed over?
Yes I have been! I had a photographer that did awful work, we gave her a deposit without a contract...however we cancelled the check and did the 'right thing' by turning around and paying her half of the deposit as the engagement photo sitting fee that was supposed to be free....she proceeded to call my fiance and I fat..i was the cow and he was the whale...and she said she wanted to take my fiance to court for sexual assault...im like wtf...poor guy was so upset because he was with me the ENTIRE time, we walked in front of her...she was a B***** and we went to the police about her. She threatened to F*** us up!





We finally found a new photographer and she's so much better





look at ALL their work, make sure alot of have un-enhanced, you don't want to have someone and find out everythings been enhanced or altered because they're covering up for their own mistakes.
Reply:Ouch, so you got burned like that....but really good advice. There is always someone who will try to gain money and power by anyway possible especailly in trajic or blissful moments. by the way, Congrats on getting engaged. :)
Reply:I am sorry to hear about all that! I had a similar situation with a photographer we hired. She seemed professional and did nice work, but was just starting out. She kept trying to pressure us to pay her sooner, but I told her I would not give any type of deposit until we had a contract. She never did send that contract (OR our engagement pictures!) so we let her go. Happily! We decided to go with someone more experienced, and things are going much better now. Never let a vendor pressure you! THEY are working for YOU and a certain level of professionalism should be expected.





Good luck with everything, I'm sure your wedding will be gorgeous!
Reply:Never had anything like that happen but good advice to keep in mind for my future wedding whenever it gets here, ya know? I'm sorry that you had to learn the hard way but it's better to have eyes wide open for the future than not.


Gina
Reply:Never
Reply:I'm sorry that this happened to you.





All of the vendors that we dealt with were by recommendation only. They were all upstanding businesses and did amazing work.
Reply:my florist screwed me over and I flipped out on her and went somewhere else
Reply:I did get a bad vibe from one catering hall so I stayed away. I felt like I was talking to a used car salesman and I just got a funny feeling. He offered me a drink and I felt like I would have a bill for it when I left. I didn't of course but I went with my instincts and went somewhere else.





The problem I did run into was the church of all places. They wouldn't tell me what days they had available so I could go to a catering hall and say okay - I can do the wedding on these 4 days - what do you have available. They gave me such a runaround that I went to another church (my church the bad one was my husbands) I figured if they were giving me such a hard time on just getting a day what would they do after that and on the day of the wedding.
Reply:No, we weren't. We were careful. One just never pays for services until they are received.