Ok..so I've been dating this guy for 8 weeks....has been the most happiest time of my life in years..he asked me to be his girlfriend and it's all been great!......the thing is my health isn't great....I can be fine for months, but occassionally will relapse and have to stay home to recover. Sometimes this is for a few weeks..sometimes longer. He's been great.....obviously is all very new to him and bit weird....but he's coped and been understanding. The thing is....I'm terrified I will lose him because of it. I'm so glad he has seen me well and we've had so many amazing times and become very close.....but being ill isn't attractive and with the relationship so new I'm totally stressing (which doesn't help my recovery) I know it's out of my control....whatever happens. ....I'm usually very positive and I fight tooth and nail......however, my past relationship lasted 10 years and I was really unhappy. I've finally been happy for the first time in a LONG time and I feel so helpless.
Scared I'll lose him....?
Honestly, I would take being delieriously happy in an honest, up-front relationship of 8 weeks that didn't work out for whatever reason, over being in an unhappy relationship of 10 years. Sounds like this guy is a real gem so enjoy your time together. He may stay with you for a long time to come or he may get hit by a bus tomorrow, but regardless if you keep letting this fear swirl around in your head, sooner or later, that energy can "infect" the relationship with negative consequences and I know you don't want that. Make up your mind about whether you want to feel "happy" or "helpless" and then chose one and let the other go. Remember fear is only: F.E.A.R. = False Evidence Appearing Real. Right now enjoy what you have and stay in the present-stop projecting and/or looking back. What you are afraid of in the future hasn't even happened yet (and may not) and what happened in the past is done. Only thing you have control over are your thoughts emotions and actions so why not choose the more positive thoughts and just enjoy your experience right here, right now?
Reply:i don't think you should be worried about loosing him..just be strong and believe in your relationship that will work out..because you have a good bf that is there for you and understanding. Well you have to trust your heart..and you are probably scared that he is going to brake your heart..which is probably not true. Just be happy and dont worry about the past..this is a future.
Reply:if things are going great and he's supporting you then there is no reason to break up with him. you are right, you cant help that. (sounds similar to the immune disease Lupus) which is REALLY hard to deal with im sure. but if you are questioning this just talk to him to get reassurance that he isnt going anywhere. good luck!
Reply:If this guy is interested in you enough he will understand that you have a health problem. If he can cope with this he will hang around and help you through your bad times. Have you told him about your problem, if so what was his reaction because this will tell you a lot about him.
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