How do i get over the loss of my first real job?

i am still a student in college, and i fought tooth and nail with classmates to get the job (not internship) of my dreams at an architecture firm. i was so excited, i quite my job at the mall and was ready to start down a real career path...however, on my way to the interview i was in a bad car accident... after that, i still had fight to convince them to let me come in again. they decided to hire me, even though they knew i was still a student, with no experience... about a month later they decided they had to let me go because they didn't feel like taking the time to train me (their office was falling apart they needed a professional's help). i guess i kinda understand their motive, but what i don't understand why they wasted my time in the first place. i still feel like this was a personal attack (they were very mean to me when i worked there), and i can't shake the feeling of being a loser...not a good first experience. now i jobless, car-less, and my grades at school are slipping.

How do i get over the loss of my first real job?
You know, it is important to research your jobs before you spend so much time getting them. However, this experience was important for you to learn, and the first lesson is, some businesses are very dysfunctional. Hiring you was THEIR mistake, not yours. They did not know their own company well enough to hire what they needed. You were the wrong person for the job.


Get back to your studies and learn what's right and what's wrong for you. Just because you want something does not mean it is the best thing for you at the time. A dysfunctional company is wrong for your first job. You need to learn how things are done well, not dysfunctionally. However, if you don't do well at school, you are not going to be prepared for anything.


If you had head trauma in your accident, IMMEDIATELY go to the dean of your school and explain that you need time off to evaluate the effects of the head trauma and get therapy. Don't waste your time taking classes if you have the effects of a head injury. Some of these effects are an inability to concentrate and a sense of depression. You could have the same symptoms from loosing a job, but th accidents could have caused the same problems. Be prepared for school, don't juggle. Forget a job. All good things come to the person who waits. Use your intelligence to evaluate situations. Don't create false expectations in yourself about people and situations and yourself, expectations can be devastating. People and situations can let you down when they fail to meet those expectations. Become a realist, not an optimist or a pessimist.
Reply:when god closes a doo,r he opens a window. go look for another job, leave this job on a good note though, just incase the are hiring again later.
Reply:Just think.





All the people who are successful,





every single one of them,





were rejected or fired at some part of their life.





You working there gave you some experience right? and you were still in college when you had the job! that's pretty impressive!





You working there was just a step in your life, to get you where you need to be. It was like on stepping stone that lead you to wherever you want to be.





Are you a better person after you left the job, then when you came to it? Then it was worth having the job.