Cotillian?

When i was young, my mother enrolled me in cotillian, so that i could live up to our socialite name. I fought tooth and nail agianst it, and even boycotted the dress code for my coming out party. Now that i am a parent, my mother has offered her opinoin that i should enroll her in cotillian. I am not sure if i want that life for her, but should i let her decide? or should i just force her to do it like my mother did?

Cotillian?
Just have a frank conversation with your daughter. Explain what cotillion is and what you do in it. Try not to inject your own negative opinions of it, otherwise your daughter may come back one day and say, "You made me say no when I really did want to try it." And then ask her if she's interested. Chances are she'll say no -- cotillion was already on its way out when I was in middle school and high school in the 90s. Then you can just tell your mom that while you appreciate her opinion, your daughter isn't interested, and you'd rather her invest her time in something she DOES like to do.





If your daughter does say yes, there are some great things to be learned in cotillion that apply to real life. My best friend did it, and she picked up a lot of etiquette rules that continue to be useful for her in business situations.
Reply:Let her decide. Why have a battle with your daughter over something so inconsequential to real life?
Reply:Would you have appreciated the chance to make your own decision, probably, and she probably would to.
Reply:You have to let her decide she will respect you much more if you let her have a say.
Reply:ok. I was like that too. When I was in middle school my parents made me do the SAME THING. and I HATED IT. BUT in the end...I sit up straight (great posture) i shake hands the way they are supposed to be shook. I have excellent table manners. blah blah blah...and you know what...it stuck! I look around and hardly ANYONE has any manners anymore! they slump over...give cold, dead fish handshakes and hunch over their plate to shovel in the food! these are just some of the things I have witnessed. I think even if your daughter thinks its outrageous and stupid...think in the long run. Seriously, we NEED more mannerly people in this world.








and another thing, being in cotillian really helps to land a great job.