What should i do? freind not being straight with me.?

i'm not sure what to do. i am in the middle of a moral dilemma and cant decide beween my head and my heart.





i by nature am a very shy person and a social outcast. i can safly say i have 2 people that i can truly consider friends. or have up until this point. one of the friends is a online friend. the other one is a best best friend who lives about 10 minutes away and we talk daily and hang out 3 a week etc. for the last 3 years she has been in a abusive relationship which she couldn't escape from. finally last christmas i along with her family managed to get her out. i found out a few months ago that this guy had been secretly still living with her for a few months because he had been made homeless and she took pity on him. this hurt me by the fact she had fought tooth and nail to hide it away from me. the one thing i pride mysef on is that fact that people can talk to me. so to find out she felt she couldnt talk / tell me really hurt. and i was ready to say "forget it"

What should i do? freind not being straight with me.?
I've been through this with a friend of mine not telling me. I class myself as a good friend and treat people in the same way i would wish to be treated. So, when this happened to me, i was hurt, gutted and annoyed and confused that she kept it from me. but it wasn't about me it was about my friend and her lover. She may not have told you because she may feel that she has let you down and her family and thought it easier and better to keep it from you. Talk to her, tell her how you feel, not forgetting she obviously has her reasons for keeping it from you, let let her know that your hurt and tell her she can always rely on you and so on. I didn't break contact with my friend, just let her know i was there for her when it fell apart, and it did. Have a good long hard think. Good luck. xx
Reply:they didnt want you to worry about them so they would hide it from you thats what friends sometimes tend to do...
Reply:Most times you'l find out that they are ashamed to admit that they took their abusive partners back, especially to their friends, all you can do is be there for her but don't be negative with her just BE THERE!
Reply:It was wrong of her to take pity since he was abusive towards her but I think you should forgive her because I can understand why she kept it from you, you would get angry with her, obviously. She still loves you and trusts you, it'll all work out!
Reply:Life and people, can be strange at times. This person may not even be such a good friend, as you think. I wouldn't hold anything against this person. Maybe you can help some. But, it sounds like you are the one being a friend, and holding whatever relationship this is, together. Best of luck.
Reply:Dont forget it i myself also pride myself with knowing people can tell me anything and everything but sometimes there are things that people just dont want others to know. the reason she probably didnt tell you was because she was in an abusive relationship with him that she didnt want people to think of her as a dumb person for doing this when he could hurt her again. so dont worry about it.
Reply:Don't be like that. Don't forgo a friendship so easily. How easy can you be to talk to if you are so easily dispelled to telling your best friend to "forget it"? This was a lot harder on her, after all she was the one going through the hard times, not you. Be a true friend and show some sympathy and true love and stop thinking about yourself. Often times its a case of two step forwards, one step back. You just have to be patient and a lot more emphatic than you have shown yourself to be.
Reply:I know you are hurt, but listen. Sometimes those that have been in an abusive relationship and let it continue dont have much of a self esteem theirself. It could be that this person who abused her (sometimes) made her feel wanted, needed or secure in some way. She must have had some feelings for this person in order to let this person come back into her life. She may be ashamed of these feelings, but sometimes our heart over rules our head. I would also feel betrayed/hurt and angry. She must take control over her own life and make the decisions to let it continue or get out. I am sure she did not mean to hurt you. My bet is that she is needy to this person for some wild unexplainable reason. She lacks the ability to say no and she lacks alot of self respect and she must have a heart the size of texas to feel sorry for this person. Good luck to you. There is not much that you can do except be her friend if you can.
Reply:look..u should be glad tat she kept it away frm u..she didn't want u to get too worried about the fact tat she's living wif the guy who used to abuse her, and the guy whom wif the help of u and her family she finally got away frm..


mayb she stills have feelings for this guy..and if so..she's also in her own dilemma..!


it's like she still likes this guy who she knows that is no Gd, and this is the guy whom her family and best friend had helped to "get rid" of from her life...for Her Own Gd..!


you see her dilemma here..?





take it from me..good friends are hare to find, futher more to say best friends..be there for her..she still cares how you feel..
Reply:I scaned the first part of your question , the rest looked like to much to bother with .


Be independent you say your are a social outcast if you go around saying that people will think their doing you a favour just talking to you and people always expect to be paid for their favours ,


Believe me solitude is wonderful , you don't have to worry about pleasing people or what they thin or if you are offending them or if your getting enough care from them or if your giving them enough so they don't go away





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BE FREE the more you focus on the few '' Frendships the more importance they will take up and you will become more jelous of this casual girls live in friend she will tell you it isnt any of your business do you think that could be right ?
Reply:lose the friend

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