Opinion....Did he Cheat?

I've been married for 14 years (3 kids). A few days ago I came home from work and got a strange phone call from a girl who said my hubby was cheating on me with her. She said "Can I speak to Cindy? (that's me) I'm sorry to tell you this but Greg has been cheating on you with me for 6 months now. I just found out about you. I can't take this anymore." Then she hung up before I could say anything.


I just sat there in shock. About 2 minuits later the phone rang again and a girl (the same one i'm pretty sure said," I'm sorry but my sister just prank called you. She got your number from the phone book."Then she said, " You guys, that was really mean." and hung up. Here is the strange part. My first name is not listed in the phone book, only my husbands is, but she used Cindy when asking for me? If it was a random prank call how did she know my name? I confrunted my husband and he denies everything tooth and nail. Her phone # showed on caller ID as "private number".

Opinion....Did he Cheat?
Wait on callling. Talk to your husband, as CALMLY as you can one more time. Something sounds fishy and I'm only saying this because there are some catty women out there who do things like this to cause trouble. Think if you can think of anyone who may not like you? Or a woman he works with that may have a crush and is trying to cause trouble...I don't think it's odd that she knows your name, in this day and age information is easily accessible. This also sounds like it may have been someone young? Especially with the content of the second call.....you have to sit down with him again. Tell him you have this woman/girl's phone number, and how much this is eating you up. If he tries to stop you, then I would definitely be a little suspicious. If he tells you to feel free to find out - do just that. Feel free to email me - I've been through a similar situation.
Reply:I could use a client! Report It

Reply:I know this will sound crazy but you wouldn't happen to live anywhere near Chicago, would you????
Reply:well have you ever considered hiring a private investigater? maybe you could call her when ur husband isnt home and be like "hi is greg there?" and see what her response it. im not sure what to say to her
Reply:Well, did you confront your husband about the mysterious call? And why would they be calling you to prank call you? You said your first name was not listed in the phone book. That's kind of funny and suspicious about how they knew your name if they 'found your number in a phone book'. From what you say, I kind of doubt it was a prank.
Reply:Wow that's really messed up. I would call fist to make sure that you have the right number. Then to a reverse number look up and find out where this person lives. It's weird that she knew your first name. If your husband denies it then it might not be true. But you have to get to the bottom of this and find out who called you. If your husband trust you and you trust him you all should look through all the phone records and try and find out who this person was.
Reply:Sorry but it sounds like he cheated.
Reply:I think that if your husband was cheating on you there would have been signs. If this girl calling was the only reason you have to accuse your husband of cheating then I say believe your husband. It could have been a prank call, maybe it was a kid from your neighborhood or a friend or older sibling of one of your children just being mean.





Give your husband the benefit of the doubt if he has seemed innocent up to this point. Don't ruin a good marriage over some childish prank.
Reply:i wouldn't let your husband off the hook so easily!


have you check the most recent phone book,u know they


update them from time to time! i would just look at different things in his behavior,and mannerisms! good luck
Reply:He may not have but the girl could be interested in him %26amp; trying to cause trouble
Reply:wow that is a hard one. My question to you is how were you able to get her name from the internet? maybe this is how she got your name too? If he has not given you any reason to believe there is infidelity then I would trust him. If he is working late, you cannot reach him, he acts defensive for no reason, sex is different for the two of you (less or more...) if he smells like another women maybe her perfume or something, if he is very secretive... then I would assume he is cheating, however if none of these things are happening.... I would assume you are just a victim of a prank call. I am sorry you have to deal with this. My husband got caught here recently amd its been very difficult. If you need to chat, feel free to email me.
Reply:Has he given you any reason to mistrust him? If not, you may have to give him the benefit of the doubt. If you've had other things come up, then maybe it's time to look deeper into things.





Too late for *69?
Reply:First of all, you're obsessing over this. What did your husband say about her knowing your name? Does he work with younger women? It's very likely that a girl at his work has a crush on him and decided to be a little b@#* one day and torment you.





On the other hand, has your husband done anything to make you suspect cheating, or was this totally out of the blue and the thought never crossed your mind? If you've been worried about him cheating before, then maybe call the number or press him for more info. If not, then trust him and write it off as a prank call from someone who obviously knows you guys.





I'm sorry, this would be upsetting. But unless he's given you reason not to, then you should trust your husband. Good luck.
Reply:Based on what you tell us, I'd say he did it. She called you hoping that you'd leave him so she could have him. Then started to second guess herself and try to save face knowing that when he found out what she did he'd not have anything else to do with her. Once the trust is gone in a relationship it's hard to reconcile.
Reply:if you have her number, call her. You could try a prank approach, like she did. Here's an example, but keep in mind that the HIV pandemic should not be taken lightly: "Hello ma'am, I am from [enter city here] testing center. We were given your number from one of our patients because he feels there is a good chance you may be infected. Will you please name who this might be?" Now, if she is smart, she will pcik up on it and say that this goes against HIPAA, etc.. But, chances are: she isn't that smart.





But, realistically, she could have gotten your name anywhere. Have you tried to google your name and your husbands? It's random, but so are pranks. And, keep in mind that you have to notice, did your husband change his demeanor in any way that leads cause to belief he is cheating?





best of luck.
Reply:Then he did cheat because if the girl knew your name and maybe another girl said that for your husband so you wont find out. Find out info on that girl and where your husband goes.
Reply:just wait for few days %26amp; don't ask your husband to much, let him relax a bit, and act like you forgot all about it


don't let or tell your husband what are you up to %26amp; act normal


start search for that girl %26amp; search your husband email , phone %26amp; mail, something is going on,





don't call her yet, i say if you get her address spy on her %26amp; don't say anything to him until you get proofs
Reply:Wow. Well first of all it is really strange that the person asked for you, and said it was a prank phone call....especially if your name is not listed in the phone book. If you do have this girl's phone number i would definately call her and talk to her. Be very calm and civilized and just ask her to be honest with you woman to woman...tell her you need to know the truth and explain to her how much this could affect your life. Get her to understand your side and situation. I would definately call her though. It definately seems VERY suspicious.
Reply:For the sake of your sanity, forget about it and let it go. It's hard, I know, but do you want your husband or to believe this idiot on the phone?





Let it go and move on. And keep one eye on him..
Reply:Wow that is strange. I dont think I would worry about calling the girl back. I would simply higher a private investigator and find out the truth that way. If you dont want to spend the money stop by his work and see who he works with. A majority of affairs occur in the workplace.
Reply:Always trust your woman's intuition. If I were in your situation, I would keep as calm as possible (I know easier said than done) and find out as much information before you say anything else to your husband. Of course he's going to deny it and it IS possible that it was just a prank. I would find out as much as I could about this girl - find her address, where she works, etc. If you call, you run the risk of getting the "sister" and not finding out anything. Good luck and keep a clear head.
Reply:Call the County Attorney and arrange to visit a representative from that office. Take the phone number you found and all the information you have provided for us here and present it to them. This is actionable. They will handle it. And you will find out in the end whether the cheating really occurred.
Reply:First I would ask you, who would you trust more, a girl who calls and tells you he is cheating, or your husband of 14 years. Second, what's not to say its some girl who likes your husband and has tried to get him to cheat but he won't, and in return she is trying to break up your marriage? I mean if my wife asked me if I was cheating, of course I would get defensive, especially if it is right out of the blue to him, and he is not cheating. Usually there is signs that he is cheating.
Reply:I'd believe him, but take a look at some other things around how has he been acting. is there periods of time that u don't know were he is


check his cell phone, get a list of calls his made from the phone company he could delete the ones he doesn't want you to see.


is there money missing to pay that may have payed for his sexcapades


Hope this person was a goof and all ends well.


than hung your husband and kids and realize how good things r.
Reply:Okay, wow, I would either hire an investigator (if you can afford one) or be your own investigator. Look for the signs of cheating, someone listed those above, I believe. You could follow him, or maybe just show up at his work as a surprise for lunch or something maybe.





This sounds kinda nutty, but you could also get some kind of recorder and place in his car (I heard about it on Dr. Phil episode one time) or in his office, if that is possible. All of the above, ONLY if you REALLY TRULY suspect he is cheating and the warning signs are there. I wouldn't just take someone's word over the phone whom you've never met though and who claimed it was a prank. You will also have a feeling deep down in your stomach whether something is really going on if you pay attention to his actions in the future. Hope this helps.
Reply:Flip it all around. If some guy called your husband and said that you had been cheating on him with the caller for six months, what would you want your husband to do? Would you want him to have a complete melt down over it when there was nothing else that made you worry but that one phone call? Unless you have a reason to suspect him otherwise, don't convict him on what could be a real prank that is not true.
Reply:Something happened! Whatever game was played, the girl knows him. Women only play stupid games when they can't have things all their way. If this was a platonic friendship ( like a co-worker) than this would not happen. She wants him all to herself and may not want to share. She does not care that he has a family with you. Right now, she is thinking of only herself and feels if she can stir enough trouble then you will leave him and she will have him all to herself. Do not put energy into her by conversating with her cause you will not get the answer you want. You need to figure out how you are going to handle this information of mistrust. You have to talk with him and figure out what you guys are going to do now. Can he be trusted, Are you going to wonder who he is out with when not with you? How about who he is calling on the cell phone? All bad feelings of mistrust and nothing that you should have to go thru, yet life isn't perfect. You work with the hands you are dealt with and decide whether or not you need a new pair of eights!
Reply:I kind of doubt that it was a prank, because they knew your first name. She was probably telling the truth, then she thought twice about it and had a friend who knew call you back and make up that bs.


I would definently keep a very close eye on him. I would even call her back and talk to her more, see if you can get more information to prove she's either telling the truth or lying.


Good luck!!
Reply:Well you got the phone number, so now get the address too. You can call this girl but you can catch her off guard by going to her house. In person you can confront her and tell her to tell you the truth. She may deny it, but keep at it. Tell her this is no joke, this is your life and you dont want to waste your life on some man who doesn't love you. If you dont want to scare her, tell her you not here to fight(even though deep inside you really want to beat her ***) just to find out the truth. Look back at cell/home phone records to look for her number. Look at your back statements to find out anything unsual that has been purchased. Same goes for the credit cards. Hey even confront his friends about it or even better his friends wives/girlfriends. I'm sure some of their husbands have told them or they seen or figured it out. Follow him. Have your children be babysat by someone and tail his butt. If you dont have a car, maybe have a friend/relative drive you. If he is cheating by now he's most likely on guard. So this may be hard for you, but act like nothing is wrong so he doesn't become suspicious . Personally I'd confront this girl in person.
Reply:Some ladies are really bad and playing stupid games is what makes them tick. You can find someone name anywhere. If she has ur phone # she can prob find out what movies you rented last week. Give me enought time i could find your name and phone number and prank call you. Give your husband some slack. 80% chance of prank 20% chance of cheating
Reply:mens' are always cheater....don't trust them.... smash him.at least u can do.....