My son is 12 and his bedtime is 11:00, though most times he goes to bed himself before that. But there was a segment on Good Morning America this morning that said kids his age should get 8.5-9.5 hours of sleep each night to be at their optimum level for school. That would require my son be in bed at 9:30, which to me is kind of early! He would fight me tooth and nail if I told him his bedtime was 9:30! What is your teen's bedtime, or do they have one?
For parents of teens, does your teen have a bedtime?
I saw the segment you are talking about or a similar news story. I try to make my daughter go to bed by 9:00-9:30 on school nights. She is almost 15, and we don't always make it because sometimes she has sports events and other extra-curricular activities and/or homework that keep her up until 10:00 ish.
You are right that you will have a hard time going backwards with it. Did you see the part that said "A" students sleep an average of 15 min more per night than "B" students?
If he is already a smart kid and wants to be a good student, you might be able to appeal to him with this info, but it's hard to get most kids this age to care about grades as much as they should. If you give him an allowance, you might consider offering him a small weekly raise for moving up his bedtime 15 min. each night. You may have some luck trying to enforce this now with daylight savings time ending, as it will SEEM later earlier in the evenings when it starts getting dark earlier. You might even be able to work some sort of trade to let him stay up a bit later on Fri %26amp; Sat in exchange for the earlier bedtime on week nights. At 12, you need to approach it with reason %26amp; incentive rather than laying down the law. Good luck!
Reply:first of all, your son is still a kid, your a teen after 13-14...i'd say a good bedtime is 10:30.
Reply:My son is 13. His bedtime is 10:00 unless he gives me a hard time in the morning in which case I move it back to 9:30. I don't care if he likes it or not, but he's used to it and doesn't usually fight me on it. We have TiVo so that stopped the argument about just *having* to stay up to watch something.
Reply:i think 11 is kinda late for a 11 year old...so i would say about 10 or 10;30.......
Reply:Nope as they grow older they have to start making their own choices and learn that their actions have consequences.... My son is 15 and if he says up too late he is tired the next day.. This is something the need to learn. He is usually in bed by 10-10:30.
I dont believe in bedtimes because you need to teach responsibility and consequences.
He is an A student.
Reply:Well if he is in bed before that and is going to bed on his own then i see no problem.
Im 18 and I usually only get 4-6hrs of sleep, id love more but i have so much to do and cant focus long enough to get it done in time so im always up late doing things.
Reply:When I was a teenager my bedtime was 9:00 until I was 13, 9:30 for when I was 13 and 14, 10:00 when until I was 16, and by 16 (grade 11 and grade 12) I had no bedtime.
I did fight my mom a lot about it, but then, isn't that what parents and teens do? 11 to me seems really late for a 12 year old. Maybe it isn't though, you could ask his teachers if he seems alert in class.
Weekends there was no bedtime
Reply:You can email the segment form the program and talk to him about it. Don't mandate it...Talk. Remember homework must come first. So be flexible , tell him that you think that the program made sense to you and you would like to know how he feels about it.
Reply:I think it depends on the kids.......my kids are older than your son, but they have always done well in school and I have let them kind of decide, I noticed though what one person said, and that was sort of my guide, if they were hard to get up, I made them go to bed earlier that night, but if they did good in the mornings, then I never minded if they went to bed by 11:00........that has always worked for us........
Now, when they have tests in school or mid-terms things of that sort, I get them to go to bed earlier......it has always worked for us....
GOOD LUCK in whatever you decide.....it has to work for your family, as long as the grades are there and there is no fussing in the morning, do what you want to......
Reply:Bedtimes for my children:
15: 10pm
12: 9pm
11: 9pm
11: 9pm
09: 8-9pm
07: 8pm-ish
1.5: Whenever her batteries run out. Usually about 8-9pm.
This allows me a little me time and time with the TV/spouse without all their drama.
Reply:11:00 is Waaay too late for a 12 year-old.
Kids his age do need about 8 1/2 hours of sleep. So backwards plan his bedtime:
If he needs to be up at 6:00 to get ready for school, then he needs to be asleep by 9:30.
My teens are 16 and 15 and they go to bed at 10:00 on school nights, and No later than midnight on Friday and Saturday nights.
9:30 is not early for a 12 year-old at all. You are the parent and you set the rules, if he fights you "tooth and nail" then you punish that behavior until he complies. Begin with making bedtime even earlier until he gets the message that bedtime is non-negotiable. You have a responsibility to set him up for success and ensuring 8 1/2-9 hrs of shut-eye per night is your job.
Reply:I'm not a parent but I'm 18. I didn't have a bed time that I can remember and I still made great grades. So that GMA segment in away is a load of bunk. And the woman who said that she makes her 15yr old go to bed at 10 or 10:30 is asking for it when her daughter turns 18 she's going to go wild, trust me on that one, I've seen it happen. Anyway I think 11 is fine for a 12 year old or even earlier (like 10) although I don't think he'd take kindly to moving it back. Just leave it at 11 for a couple of years, up until he's about 15. He seems like a responsible kid I mean he does go to bed even before his bedtime most of the time so I think 11 is fine for him. I watch the news regularly and have since i was about 11 or 12 and I've heard reports like the one on GMA before but seriously I never got those 9.5 hours of sleep at any point when I was in school unless I was lower then 5th grade and I graduated this past May with Honors. Good Luck. I know I wasn't exactly who you were asking for but I hope I helped.
Reply:my 13 year old is in bed 8.30 lights out 9pm thats half hour of reading. except when NCIS is on as she wants to be a forensic scientist but we usually have tired issues the next day. kids need sleep so do adults who is watching them at that time of night
Reply:It really defers with everybody. No one study will really say how much time you need to sleep to achieve excellence in school. Some people can only sleep 6-7 hours and still be fully rested. The media really screws with everybody head because one day this is good for you and the next day they will come up with a study saying too much sleep is not good for you. Go with your motherly instincts and see where it goes from there. Test it out
Reply:Hey girl...when Gage was 12 his bed time was 10:00. That meant he had already showered and was in the bed by 10:00. Now that he is 16, he stays up until 11:00, but would stay up later if I didn't make him go to bed. They will always fight for more, but we, as their "guiding parents" are supposed to show them the way of what is best for them. He doesn't have to get up til 7:00 so that gives him 8 hours. Now Jase, since he isn't in regular school, he stays up a little later than most 6 year olds, but of course we sleep a little later. He is in bed by 10:00.
Reply:My parents usual bedtime for me: 9:30
Time they start shouting "go to bed": 9:30
Average times they shout it: 1-5
Average time im in bed by: 10
Time to wake up: 6:30
Hours of sleep I get: 9-8.5
Summer/weekend bedtime: 11
Age: Teen
im not a parent but i know when my bedtime is
Reply:My son is 14 and his bed time is 10:00. If he has difficulty getting up the next morning it is pushed back 1/2 hour. My daughter is 11 and her bed time is 9 pm. I usually dont have an issue getting her up in the morning, so I think this is a good time.
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