Am i overreacting?

a friend (bro in law..spouses younger bro..almost my age) %26amp;i


have been more of friends .


we have shared 5 long years of bonding .. but fought tooth %26amp; nail too. recently , i felt pretty disgraced by him.. yeah he apologised but i feel .. no we cannot be friends...ya formal stuff is ok .. but no more friendly ..talks..etc.





im asking the q ..;cos iv never felt so strong yo not be mixing with him. even though i "was" pretty fond of him???


am i overreacting?





PS: i f its irrelevant post..sorry!

Am i overreacting?
Grow up
Reply:I would need to know what happened....then I could give a good answer.
Reply:No. Because for you the friendship is over!
Reply:Sometimes people grow apart, you are not overreacting it's just that you two won't be close anymore, perfectly normal.
Reply:I don't know what you mean.


If you are 'more of friends', does that mean you were sleeping together?


And what has he done that has disgraced you?


If you're going to ignore someone after 5 years because of one incident, you'd better have a damn good reason.
Reply:I guess no one knows how you feel but YOU. Also, we do not know enough details to know if you are over reacting. You might be fighting about something VERY legitimate, or you could be spatting over the remote control for all we know. Just don't let it eat you alive--grudges can do that.
Reply:Yeah, you are over reacting. He apologized, and you should give him a chance. Part of being friends is arguing/fighting, but in the end you can talk about anything. I don't know what the fight was about, but I'm guessing that it's not necessary to ruin your friendship over it. Good luck.
Reply:No you are not. He may have said or done a truly idiot thing that offended your senses. He'll grow up at some point. In the meantime listen to yourself...it is your God given internal warning system. Someday when the hurt wears off you can tell him the affect it had on you. Listen only to yourself in these matters.
Reply:Well, it's kind of hard to answer this question, as I don't know the situation, and what made you two fight. But, going on your vague generalisation, I'd say talk it over with him. If he's your brother in law, then you will be stuck with him in your life as long as you remain married.





Also, you need to discuss this with your spouse (you seem very vague of the gender of your spouse, too). I can't say if you're overreacting as I don't know what he did, but after 5 years, you say you have developed a strong friendship. Just be careful you don't mislead him, as obviously that will ruin your marriage (that is, if there is a sexual attraction between the two of you...again, I don't know your gender).
Reply:these things are really usual one happening between friends dude....... the best art of the life is to forgive things..... cracks may occur between friends but some times cracks may come as our friend ...... u belong to the later part..... its not over reacting but outburst of anger as ur best friend has disgraced u.... he too apologize u 4 his mistake.....so forget t6he matter as such and be friends for ever........